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The bloody fingertips of writer's souls.
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Advice from on high
Writing bites. The elite writers are never short of advice for the stragglers and strugglers, and new years is the national speaking convention of the successful. I read this morning "keep working hard and never give up." 

Damn, if I had just known that last year I would have made it by now. Not to be pessimistic, but persistence does not equal monetary success or fame in writing.

These kinds of generic feel good statements sour my stomach, as I think of the countless hours spent at the keyboard, seemingly in vain, writing to an imaginary, nonexistent audience. The audience comes and goes in the vapors of my sleepless nights, sometimes supporting, other times taunting.

While I appreciate the pat on the back and the well wishes of those writers with status, the empty words do little for my reality. The once sage advice has become trite and hollow, as every success in life requires hard work and persistence. How novel.

Worse yet are the thousands of marketers on the web, feeding off our lust for success. We writers are a gullible bunch, not from stupidity, but because we want so intensely for people to read our the words of our essence. 

My bones ooze the pernicious and perhaps vain desire to be heard. Many profiteers feed off this vulnerability, taking money from the poor, in payment for a hope. To sell copies, a book of writing tips only has to make the author believe that he will succeed. Not all, but many prey upon the mass of writers, who only want to believe. The site below suggests that through their course you can be among the "now happy and successful authors."

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An altruistic helper: the marketing is highlighted. Notice the phrase "now happy and successful writers."
Loving bloody fingers
Why are we compelled to write when the process is so painful, if you are truly writing. Phillip Pullman suggests that writing is an inborn urge, “After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” Evolution, perhaps, has gifted us with this legacy of longing. We long to communicate with other humans and for our language to be valued.
This oversimplifies as we all have  individual motives, but they are powerful, all-consuming at times. When we value, love a thing so much, we put ourselves at risk, but love is the ultimate quest of human existence. Love makes us vulnerable. The pairing of love and pain plagues me.

Is love suffering?
We love to write, and yet writing is suffering. Unless you are a hack, putting words to page is anguish. Hemingway painted the perfect image: “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” The psychological drive to write must be potent if we love the pain it brings, rendering our heart on the page for all to see.

You know that feeling well: sitting at the blank screen in agony over words, the right words, until finally we bleed and the words flow.The suffering does not end with the writing, but intensifies with the sharing, exposing our love to the world, opening ourselves to the real bloodletting.

Some of the greatest writers, maybe all of them, experience the same pain you feel, and the well wishers I refer to are right to encourage us. We need support to make it through the birthing. George Orwell, one of my favorites, confessed that:
Writing a book is a horrible, exhausting struggle, like a long bout with some painful illness. One would never undertake such a thing if one were not driven on by some demon whom one can neither resist nor understand.
The demons that drive us
We write because we must, whether it's a blog post, a poem, or a book. We are writers possessed by demons. This defines us. However, this is not negative suffering.

 I contend that we are better human beings because of the process of writing, whether we achieve success or not. The struggle of our mind and soul to communicate powerfully with other human beings makes us stronger. We elevate ourselves and create the potential to lift others.

The writing process is all important, not the product or public reception. You are a valuable author because you experienced the writing process, the grappling with words, the probing of too deep wounds, the mental and emotional triumph of creation. The readers are irrelevant, and the motivational words of successful authors miss the mark, suggesting that our writing will have value when we sell. Our writing has value when we write.

If you do not see this yet, follow some solid advice: “Find out the reason that commands you to write; see whether it has spread its roots into the very depth of your heart; confess to yourself you would have to die if you were forbidden to write.” Rainer Maria Rilke captures the depth of our devotion to story, the emotional profundity of our need to bleed on the page.

Give up writing if you do not feel the demon, rooted in your heart, as potent as life itself. I don't mean that. Continue writing, but for the right reasons. Stephen King, after recovering from being tragically run over by a van, said soberly, 
Writing isn't about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid, or making friends. In the end, it's about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well. It's about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy. 
He hints that writing is a form of therapy for us, and I know that he is correct.

Assumptions beneath
So, I resist those who encourage me to persist until I succeed because they construct an erroneous frame for writing, that I must achieve acclaim and monetary success to validate myself as a writer. 

The reality is that few slots are vacant for fame and fortune. The traditional frame for writing success is a harmful illusion. The attitude stems from the old American Dream, that sees a land of opportunity where all can succeed, as if we were all equal, the same. We are all different with unique skill levels, capacities and weaknesses. In addition, we have unique opportunities, not equal ones.

We are not all great writers, and many of us, despite our best efforts, lack the skills to compete in a writing market saturated with brilliance. Risk of tremendous failure is one of the doors that lies wide open before us if we buy into the traditional model of success. Many great people will work at it for ten years, a life time, diligently practicing with the Strunk and White handbook, and still fail by those standards. 

I can pound out 750 words a day endlessly, and I might see little improvement, even if I follow every piece of advice of the greats. My audience may never be anything other than the vapors and illusions.

The successful writer
We miss the significance of writing entirely if we measure ourselves this way. You are a successful writer because you write and continue to do so. Feel validated that you have gained something priceless through your writing.  You are a different, better person because of your hard work. 

Don't look ahead to future success, but find satisfaction in the process of the present moment. I will not tell you to be persistent  but I will tell you that you are already a success.
 


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01/04/2013 6:33am

So many people are full of advice, yet the only true advice is to keep writing. Keep testing yourself. Keep pushing. The greatest success a writer can have is simply to get the story out onto a page, as if you don't, the story will drive you insane...or be forgotten. Which is worse? The forgotten part is worse for me...The characters, the world...a story that only existed as a dream, then gone with the mists of the morning....

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02/22/2013 9:02pm

Dan,

Beautifully put! Yes, isn't there an intolerable amount of advice? I like it from friends I can trust like you, but it's hard to take from strangers.

You have the haunting write ... that ghost is hard to pacify until you get it on the page.

By the way, congratulations on your nuptials. You and Lisa make a wonderful couple. Love to see your rockin' hair in the pictures!

Thanks again,

Darin

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01/04/2013 8:49am

Darin, a very probing inquiry into a writer's world. I can feel your intensity, your dedication. Why do I write? Heaven knows. Personally, I don't think it matters whether one writes or not, and I think much too much fuss is made about the whole business. But that's just me. Apart from enjoying life I can't take anything that seriously.

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02/22/2013 8:48pm

So good of you to stop by, nothing profound. I always enjoy hearing from my friend, Walt. Thank you for the kind comments.

I think you care about writing more than you suggest. You care about it so much that you waste no words in your aphorisms. You are write that I make too much of it. Better for me to bleed the wound than let it fester :-)

Darin

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02/02/2013 7:35pm

Thank you, Darin, for reassuring me I am not alone in my contempt of the vultures who feed on our mania of writing. In a world saturated with both brilliance and mediocrity, of the published and the anonymous kind, it is a bad idea to lose one's originality to packaged advice.

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02/06/2013 7:01am

What a refreshingly honest an eloquent look at writing and what drives us writers. Me? I'm thankful for the day job. I don't write any more creatively while worrying about how to make ends meet. I might write with more urgency, but it wouldn't be better writing under that kind of pressure.

I worry about those poor souls who are so desperate for the validation of seeing their words in print that they fall prey to the unscrupulous.

As for writing advice in general, I've always joked that writing about the art of writing is what we writers fall back on when suffering a bout of writer's block. It's tried and true and never lacks a loyal following. But never were the words "consider the source" more important - it's fine to listen to the likes of Stephen King - he speaks from decades of personal experience. But make sure you know whose advice you're following, so it doesn't just lead deeper into hell.

The best writing advice I ever got came from Tom Clancy. People were asking about how to find an agent, how to get a publisher to read your unsolicited manuscript, how to format a manuscript... and most hadn't written a decent first draft, yet. "Just write the damned book," he said. And the point's well taken: If you dream of fame and riches, you have to first have a product to sell. If you just love the writing, itself - if you crave that "meeting of the minds" that comes from writing as a form of communication... well, we can all blog, now, can't we? :)

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02/22/2013 9:26pm

Holly,

I just wrote a whole long response, was curious to check out your site, went there, and my response was erased. So, this is round 2, but a couple of positive things:

1. Your site is gorgeous. I love bonsai and used to have about 20 to 30 until they froze one year when I forgot them outside. Seriously, a beautiful layout, attractive and unique. I am going to read more ... AFTER I post this. :-)

2. I feel more connected to you now after having written to you for a half an hour or so and checked out your site.

I love your story about Tom Clancy, and sometimes with my blog posts, I have to tell myself the same damn thing. You say that most are seeking validation, or are lusting after the fame of King, Clancy, and the likes. This is so true, and it is sad. We just want to feel proud, be liked, and receive attention as humans. I wish that through our writing we could meet our true need of a positive self esteem and that we could somehow provide it for others.

That type of anguish leads down a lonely path as opposed to the anguish that comes through wrestling with one's heart and brain, struggling to get the words just right, to capture what you thin and feel. This is positive, unless we get sidetracked into negative feelings that have no resolution - longing for approval.

You are a positive force in the writing community because of your experience, honesty, and heart. I can smell it in your words. Thank you for adding to a community that really needs you. As a writer who validates others, you are meeting the needs and longings they feel. This bit of approval eases their pain and makes them better writers.

Thank you for sharing and for being here with me,

Darin

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02/22/2013 7:00am

Your audience is far from "vapors and illusions" - its just that few of us usually take the time to let the writer know how there words have helped, inspired, enlightened, or encouraged others. So ...thankyou

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02/22/2013 8:55pm

Betsy,

A pleasure to meet you, and I visited your site. Plan to write there in a few moments in fact. Thank you for your own reassurance. Writing is scary sometimes if you really put your heart into, and I can tell already that you do in writing about your faith. Have heart, and keep writing Betsy. I look forward to exchanging ideas and feelings.

You're great,

Darin

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