Train Your Brain to Be Optimistic
Many people struggle to stay optimistic, especially in the workplace. After all, there are many reasons to be pessimistic: a difficult economy, global competition, a business ethos that seems to reward criminals and penalize truth-tellers.
Notes that pessimistic people have decided that all is awful, robbing themselves of the ability to act. All people have mental rules constructed in the brain, usually unconscious, that determine how they will react to events. The key to optimism is redrafting your rules to help you respond with positive thinking, making you happier.
The strategy for revising your brain's rules involves six steps:
- Using a pen and piece of paper, not an electronic device, write down your current rules on the left side, coming up with as many as possible. Use the format, "I'm unhappy when the following things happen: (list)," and on the same side of the paper, "I'm happy when the following things happen: (list)."
- Jot down on the right hand side of the paper the current effects of each rule, considering their impact on your feelings.
- Relax for a minute. Then on the same paper, respond briefly to the following questions, "What day-to-day common events could make me feel happy?" and "What unusual, uncommon events could make me miserable?"
- Now, on a second paper, write a set of effective rules that will produce better outcomes. Use the following prompts, "I am happy when [event]" and "I am miserable only when [event]." Confine the second set to really important matters, keeping the list small.
- Stick up the new rules you just wrote in a place you will see them frequently, like on a mirror or the back of a door.
- Tear up and throw the first list away, committing yourself to abandon the old and embrace the new.
The new rules will be your guide to a mindset that embraces the positive and minimizes the negative. Leave the rules up until your perspective on life changes.
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Source is Inc.com
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