Children are adults in tiny bodies.
Human children are geniuses, with the power to master language, social, and intellectual skills in just a few years.
Compared to adults, children are learning masters.
They possess the highest evolved human trait of empathy: children can feel and think as you do. In fact this is, in part, how they learn: by putting themselves imaginatively in your place and mimicking you.
We want them to grow up to be healthy human adults, but we often wait until they leave the house to treat them as equals, peers.
What would happen if we treated them like important adults when they are three or four? What if we nourished and reinforced adult behavior and responsibility at the age of two? What if we can accomplish this while still allowing them to be free and creative - like a respected ï»¿a valued adult friendï»¿?
Of course, children still need guidance and help, but we can accomplish this by feeling and thinking with children, using our adult superpower of empathy.
I suggest that we bring into the vocabulary of early childhood development the word "mentor" as a synonym to "parent."
Because when we think of "parents," we have massive preconceptions that traditional parenting has indoctrinated within us. We have hundreds of thousand years of evolutionary baggage.
We must re-see and re-think our parenting that has gone unchecked and unchanged for 50,000 years of accelerated.
If we think of parents as mentors for children, imagine what the results might be.
We would treat them far better, regarding them as peers and children. We would raise happy, healthy adults because they have been treated that way their whole lives.
Below is an amazing TedTalk video on neuroscientific research in children by Alison Gopnik. If you are like me, her ideas will revolutionize the way you think about children. She shows how children are really geniuses.
The struggle for Self Confidence
Of all the battles you fight, this is the most difficult and important. Throughout your life people will step on your path and intrude on your way of life.
Summon your courage and find your self confidence. Life is too short to have someone riding on your back, directing your moves.
The ancient Chinese poet and philosopher Lao Tzu said:
"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."
Define your value system and beliefs carefully, and then stand by them. Maintaining an open mind is positive, but not so open that people push you around and mess with your self identity.
May you find peace and happiness in your rebellion.
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Success must travel through the risk of failure.
Do you fear taking risks?
Bloggers cope with a huge risk of failure. There are so many great blogs, and making a place for yourself is frightening.
I remember the fear when I started this blog with the first post. Adrenaline rushed as the mouse hovered over the publish button. I still am a bit nervous each time I push that button.
Your words become permanent when you publish, and you leave yourself exposed. What if no one reads it? Or, worse, what if people read it and hate it?
Blogging is a scary business because you open yourself to other people. Whenever you let down your guard you risk failure, embarrassment, and humiliation.
But, you can never achieve success without taking this risk. The risk is a refining fire which tests the worth of your innovation. You must know that you will have failures and prepare for them.
Ignoring the possibility sets you up for pain and suffering, which may prevent you from taking further risks.
However, mustering the courage for calculated risk opens the door to potential success.
Points of courage to remember:
You can ignore the lessons learned by successful people and take the safe route, avoiding risk. You will not be a lesser person. But, you won't be a better person either.
Achieve success by taking measured and careful risks, and be persistent through failure. You are great and capable of success.
Do you have a story of success after failure? Please share it with us in the comment section.
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